Our earliest relationships create a template. They teach us what love looks like, what conflict means, whether we're safe to have needs, and what happens when we're vulnerable.
Without awareness, those attachment templates run in the background of every adult relationship — creating patterns that feel confusing from the inside, because they make perfect sense as survival strategies from the outside. Anxious attachment, avoidant patterns, disorganised responses to closeness: these aren't personality flaws, they're learned adaptations.
Individual therapy for relationship issues works on your half of the dynamic — which is often the most powerful change available. EMDR can reprocess the relational wounds driving current reactions, while somatic work builds the body-level capacity for the kind of connection you actually want.