--- title: Relationship Therapy | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling description: Individual therapy for relationship patterns, attachment wounds & repetitive conflict. Body-centered approach via telehealth in Texas & Washington. Private pay. Free consult. url: https://heisercounseling.com/services/relationship-ruptures canonical: https://heisercounseling.com/services/relationship-ruptures author: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA credentials: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA location: Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) practice: Heiser Counseling — 800 S. FM 1626, Suite 102, Buda, TX 78610 contact: destany@heisercounseling.com | 512-937-3991 --- # Relationship Therapy | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling > Most relationship conflict is attachment conflict. When you can see what's actually happening beneath the surface, you stop fighting the symptom and start addressing the source. **Provider:** Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA **Location:** Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) **Contact:** [destany@heisercounseling.com](mailto:destany@heisercounseling.com) | [512-937-3991](tel:5129373991) **Book:** [Request a free consult](https://heisercounseling.com/connect) --- ## When patterns repeat across relationships Our earliest relationships create a template. They teach us what love looks like, what conflict means, whether we're safe to have needs, and what happens when we're vulnerable. Without awareness, those attachment templates run in the background of every adult relationship — creating patterns that feel confusing from the inside, because they make perfect sense as survival strategies from the outside. Anxious attachment, avoidant patterns, disorganised responses to closeness: these aren't personality flaws, they're learned adaptations. Individual therapy for relationship issues works on your half of the dynamic — which is often the most powerful change available. EMDR can reprocess the relational wounds driving current reactions, while somatic work builds the body-level capacity for the kind of connection you actually want. > "You can't think your way out of an attachment wound. But you can heal it." — Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA --- ## Signs & Symptoms of Relationship Ruptures - Repeating the same arguments - Feeling unseen or unheard - Shutting down or flooding in conflict - Fear of abandonment or engulfment - Difficulty trusting after hurt - Attracting the same type of person **Individual relationship therapy:** This is individual therapy, not couples therapy. Working on yourself — your patterns, triggers, needs, and attachment style — is often the most powerful change you can make in any relationship. --- ## Therapeutic Approaches for Relationship Ruptures ### Attachment Lens Understand your attachment style and how it shapes what you attract, tolerate, and enact in relationships. ### EMDR Reprocess relational wounds and betrayals that are still driving current patterns. ### Communication Work Move from reactive patterns to intentional responses — learning what you need and how to ask for it. --- ## What to Expect from Relationship Ruptures Therapy **01 — Free Consult** We talk about your relational patterns and what you'd like to be different. **02 — Pattern Mapping** We trace the thread from current conflicts back to their origins. **03 — Processing** Working through the relational wounds that are driving current behaviour. **04 — New Patterns** Building the capacity for the kind of relationship you actually want — starting with the one you have with yourself. --- ## Session Details - **Session length:** 50 minutes - **Format:** Telehealth (video) - **States served:** Washington & Texas - **Fee:** Private pay — superbill provided - **Frequency:** Weekly recommended --- ## Common Questions About Relationship Ruptures Therapy ### Can individual therapy help my relationship? Often more than couples therapy alone, yes. Understanding your own patterns, triggers, and needs creates ripple effects in every relationship you have. ### What if my partner won't come to therapy? You can do significant relational work on your own. You can only change your half — but changing your half changes the dynamic. ### What if I'm not in a relationship right now? Excellent time to do this work. Patterns are often most visible when we're not in the middle of one. ### What is attachment-based therapy for relationships? Attachment-based therapy looks at the relational template you formed in early life — what you learned about safety, closeness, and conflict — and how those patterns play out in adult relationships. It's especially helpful if you notice you keep having the same dynamic with different people, or that your emotional reactions in relationships feel disproportionate to what's actually happening. ### What if I keep attracting the same type of person? That's often an attachment pattern at work. The nervous system is drawn toward what feels familiar, even when familiar isn't healthy. Understanding your attachment style — anxious, avoidant, disorganised — is often the first step to interrupting a pattern that feels magnetic but keeps ending the same way. ### How does EMDR help with relationship issues? Relational wounds — betrayal, abandonment, chronic misattunement — can leave the nervous system in a state that keeps recreating the past. EMDR can reprocess these experiences so they stop driving current reactions. Many clients find that EMDR for relational trauma leads to significant shifts in how they show up in relationships. --- ## About the Therapist **Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA** is a Licensed Professional Counselor (Texas) and Licensed Mental Health Counselor (Washington State), and a Registered Dance/Movement Therapist. She specializes in trauma, anxiety, somatic therapy, and EMDR, bringing a body-first approach to mental health treatment. Heiser Counseling is based in Austin, TX and offers telehealth services across Texas and Washington State. - [Learn more about Destany](https://heisercounseling.com/about) - [View all services](https://heisercounseling.com/services) - [Request an appointment](https://heisercounseling.com/connect)