--- title: Online Grief Therapist | Somatic Loss Therapy | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling description: Online grief therapist specialising in somatic grief therapy for loss of any kind. Telehealth across Texas & Washington State. Private pay. Free 20-minute consult. url: https://heisercounseling.com/services/life-after-loss canonical: https://heisercounseling.com/services/life-after-loss author: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA credentials: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA location: Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) practice: Heiser Counseling — 800 S. FM 1626, Suite 102, Buda, TX 78610 contact: destany@heisercounseling.com | 512-937-3991 --- # Online Grief Therapist | Somatic Loss Therapy | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling > Grief is not a problem to be solved or a phase to get through. It's the price of love — and it lives in the body as much as the mind. **Provider:** Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA **Location:** Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) **Contact:** [destany@heisercounseling.com](mailto:destany@heisercounseling.com) | [512-937-3991](tel:5129373991) **Book:** [Request a free consult](https://heisercounseling.com/connect) --- ## Grief is a somatic experience We tend to think of grief as an emotional experience — sadness, crying, missing someone. But grief lives in the body too. The heaviness, the physical ache, the exhaustion that no sleep fixes, the way time moves differently. Somatic grief therapy works with the body's experience of loss directly — not just the narrative of what happened, but the felt sense of absence and change. As an online grief therapist and Registered Dance/Movement Therapist, Destany brings a body-centered lens that traditional talk therapy doesn't always offer. Loss of any kind is welcome here: death, divorce, miscarriage, estrangement, health, identity, a life you imagined. When loss carries traumatic elements — sudden death, complicated circumstances — EMDR can help process what gets frozen. And when grief intersects with major life change, the work often runs deeper than grief alone. > "You don't have to explain why this hurts so much. It just does. That's enough." — Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA --- ## Signs & Symptoms of Life After Loss - Waves of sadness that arrive without warning - Physical aching or heaviness - Difficulty with normal life tasks - Feeling out of step with everyone around you - Guilt: for surviving, for moving on, for not feeling enough - Grief that others have minimised **All losses are valid:** Death of a loved one, miscarriage and pregnancy loss, pet loss, loss of health or ability, loss of a relationship, loss of a version of yourself. You don't need to rank your grief. --- ## Therapeutic Approaches for Life After Loss ### Somatic Grief Work Work with grief in the body — the places it lives, the ways it moves, what it needs. ### Meaning-Making Find the thread of meaning through loss — not to resolve it, but to carry it differently. ### EMDR Process traumatic elements of the loss, including sudden death, complicated circumstances, or anticipatory grief. --- ## What to Expect from Life After Loss Therapy **01 — Free Consult** A gentle first conversation about what you've lost and what support feels right. **02 — Being With It** Grief doesn't need to be fixed. Sometimes it needs to be witnessed. We start there. **03 — Body-Led Work** Attending to how grief lives in your body — and what it needs to move. **04 — Integration** Learning to carry loss differently — not leaving it behind, but finding a way to live alongside it. --- ## Session Details - **Session length:** 50 minutes - **Format:** Telehealth (video) - **States served:** Washington & Texas - **Fee:** Private pay — superbill provided - **Frequency:** Weekly, especially in acute grief --- ## Common Questions About Life After Loss Therapy ### Is it too soon to come to therapy after a loss? No. There's no wrong time. Some people benefit from support immediately; others come months or years later when they realise grief hasn't resolved on its own. ### What if people tell me I should be over it by now? Grief doesn't have an expiry date. The 'five stages' model was never meant to be a timeline. How long grief lasts is not a measure of how well you're coping. ### I lost someone to suicide. Can you help? Yes. Grief after suicide loss is complex and often carries unique layers of guilt, confusion, and trauma. This work is done with care and is a safe space for it. ### Is online grief therapy as effective as in-person? Yes — research supports the effectiveness of online therapy for grief and bereavement. Many clients find that processing grief from their own home creates a sense of safety and containment that supports the work. Destany offers grief therapy via telehealth across Texas and Washington State. ### What is somatic grief therapy? Somatic grief therapy works with how grief lives in the body — the heaviness, the ache, the exhaustion, the way it moves in waves. Rather than just talking about loss, somatic approaches attend to the felt sense of grief: what it needs, where it gets stuck, and how it begins to move. This is particularly helpful for grief that feels frozen, or that talk alone hasn't shifted. --- ## About the Therapist **Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA** is a Licensed Professional Counselor (Texas) and Licensed Mental Health Counselor (Washington State), and a Registered Dance/Movement Therapist. She specializes in trauma, anxiety, somatic therapy, and EMDR, bringing a body-first approach to mental health treatment. Heiser Counseling is based in Austin, TX and offers telehealth services across Texas and Washington State. - [Learn more about Destany](https://heisercounseling.com/about) - [View all services](https://heisercounseling.com/services) - [Request an appointment](https://heisercounseling.com/connect)