--- title: Therapy After Divorce | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling description: Therapy after divorce — for grief, identity loss & rebuilding a life that's yours. Somatic approach via telehealth in Texas & Washington. Private pay. Free consult. url: https://heisercounseling.com/services/life-after-divorce canonical: https://heisercounseling.com/services/life-after-divorce author: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA credentials: Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA location: Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) practice: Heiser Counseling — 800 S. FM 1626, Suite 102, Buda, TX 78610 contact: destany@heisercounseling.com | 512-937-3991 --- # Therapy After Divorce | TX & WA | Heiser Counseling > Divorce is one of the most disorienting experiences a person can go through — even when it's the right decision. You deserve support that holds both the grief and the possibility. **Provider:** Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA **Location:** Texas (telehealth) · Washington State (telehealth) **Contact:** [destany@heisercounseling.com](mailto:destany@heisercounseling.com) | [512-937-3991](tel:5129373991) **Book:** [Request a free consult](https://heisercounseling.com/connect) --- ## Divorce isn't just an ending — it's an upheaval Even in the most mutual, most clearly-right divorce, you're not just losing a partner. You're losing a future you'd planned for, a daily structure, a version of yourself, and often a social world. That's a lot of grief to carry — especially in a culture that wants you to focus on the positives and be glad it's over. Divorce recovery therapy creates space to actually grieve what was lost, without rushing toward the next chapter. When the divorce involved betrayal, chronic conflict, or elements of emotional harm, EMDR can help process what gets stuck. Longer term, this work often intersects with identity and self-worth — rebuilding a sense of self that doesn't depend on the marriage to exist. > "You're allowed to be relieved and devastated at the same time. Both are real." — Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA --- ## Signs & Symptoms of Life After Divorce - Grief that doesn't match what others expect - Identity confusion: who am I without this? - Shame or failure narrative - Co-parenting stress and conflict - Fear of the future - Loneliness even when surrounded by people **Whether you wanted it or not:** This work is for people navigating divorce from any position — the initiator, the one who didn't see it coming, the one still unsure if it was right. --- ## Therapeutic Approaches for Life After Divorce ### Grief Work Process the layered losses of divorce without rushing toward resolution. ### Identity Rebuilding Reconnect with who you are outside of the marriage — and who you want to become. ### EMDR Process any traumatic elements of the relationship or its ending that are keeping you stuck. --- ## What to Expect from Life After Divorce Therapy **01 — Free Consult** We talk about where you are in the process and what you most need right now. **02 — Holding the Grief** Space to grieve what was lost — fully, and without timeline. **03 — Making Sense of It** Understanding what happened, your part in it, and what you want to carry forward. **04 — New Chapter** Building a life after, grounded in who you actually are now. --- ## Session Details - **Session length:** 50 minutes - **Format:** Telehealth (video) - **States served:** Washington & Texas - **Fee:** Private pay — superbill provided - **Frequency:** Weekly recommended, especially in acute phase --- ## Common Questions About Life After Divorce Therapy ### Should I come to therapy before or after the divorce is finalised? Both. During is often when support is most needed. After is when the dust settles and the deeper work begins. ### Do you work with co-parenting issues? Yes. Individual therapy can help you manage co-parenting dynamics, your reactions to a difficult co-parent, and your relationship with your children through the transition. ### What if I feel like I should be further along? There's no schedule for grief. 'Being further along' is often a pressure from others, not a real indicator of healing. ### How is post-divorce therapy different from couples therapy? Post-divorce therapy is individual — focused entirely on you, your grief, your patterns, and your next chapter. It's not shared with the other person and it moves at your pace. Once the decision to divorce has been made, individual therapy is usually the right container: it's yours. ### What is divorce recovery therapy? Divorce recovery therapy is individual therapy focused on the aftermath of divorce — grief, identity reconstruction, co-parenting challenges, and building a life that's genuinely yours. It's not about relitigating the marriage. It's about making sense of what happened and stepping into the next chapter with clarity. --- ## About the Therapist **Destany Schadder, LPC, R-DMT, MA** is a Licensed Professional Counselor (Texas) and Licensed Mental Health Counselor (Washington State), and a Registered Dance/Movement Therapist. She specializes in trauma, anxiety, somatic therapy, and EMDR, bringing a body-first approach to mental health treatment. Heiser Counseling is based in Austin, TX and offers telehealth services across Texas and Washington State. - [Learn more about Destany](https://heisercounseling.com/about) - [View all services](https://heisercounseling.com/services) - [Request an appointment](https://heisercounseling.com/connect)